I bet you could tell me 3 things you can’t do without even thinking. Things you know you can’t do because you’ve never done them before.
I went to a great talk this morning, given by author and speaker Jess Stuart. More info on Jess here
The first big take away from her talk was that we can look at our successes in 3 ways:
- we can fail
- we can be good enough
- or we can be successful
For some reason many of us, myself included, we classify good enough as a failure. If we’re not the best or as great as we’d hoped it’s a fail. How did that become a thing?
It’s interesting that we often hear people complain about the culture to give kids medals just for turning up, and I definitely think we should have winners and losers, winning feels so much better if we know what it is like to lose. But as an adult, I think there are definitely times we should give ourselves a mental high five just for turning up. Good enough is much better than failing ahead of time by never trying in the first place.
The speed it takes me to row 500m might be ‘ok’, but I know it will eventually be better because I took the time to ‘be good enough’ and every small improvement I class as a success. (Mental note, get on the rower more often)
The second thing is something I’m going to make an effort to do, is to celebrate successes. We set goals and hopefully achieve them, but we don’t take the time to bask in our successes, we just move onto the next thing we can’t do and need to conquer. I guess I do this to a small degree when I make notes of things I’m grateful for, but there is so much focus on what we can’t do. It sounds a bit naff, but I’m going to write a list of all the things I can do in the next week. Keep a record of all my small wins and anything I’ve managed to improve in the past 6 months but forgot to acknowledge because I was so focused on looking ahead to what I can’t do yet.
No one except me will ever see the list, but sometimes we just need the proof that we are awesome to believe it.